Look at that picture for a good 10 seconds. Really closely look at it and be aware of the emotions that fill your mind when you are gazing at it.
Chances are, you're thinking about "the One". Does the One exist?
Ask yourself another question, when it comes to dating, why are people nervous?
There can be many underlying problems. But when it comes to dating, I've found that it really is because of the desperation mentality. It's the thought that there are very very few people in this world who will like you, and compound that with the idea that there are very few opportunities, and you basically feel like walking on eggshells when you are with someone you like. Scared, over-thinking, self-doubt, neurotic behaviour ensues.
A lot of people despise the "player mentality". I'm not really a big fan of it myself, but one thing that you gain by mingling with lots of people is you never have the desperation mentality. You see the world for what it is, talking to many different personalities, meeting more people than you ever imagined, and you realize some very essential truths.
Compatibility really isn't that rare. If you talk to someone long enough and you have decent conversation skills and a good head on your shoulders, you'll find a lot of people who would make either great friends or great relationships with. You'll also realize that opportunities are everywhere. Everytime you leave the house (or go on a social networking site to a lesser extent) opportunities are there. Stop tricking your own mind into believing that opportunities are rare. When you believe in the Abundance Mentality, a new world will open for you.
There are 6 billion people in this world. Take a vacation to a major city and walk around if that's what it is going to take to shake you out of your tunnel vision. I assure you, there are tons of people out there who can like you if you just open your eyes and follow your heart. Have fun, for crying out loud! Don't look at this as brain surgery, it should be fun times, and if it isn't, you're not thinking straight.
For me, a long term relationship is the ultimate goal, but that doesn't mean I'm going to be this uptight robot pondering the deep philosophical implications each time I talk to a potential partner.
"Work like you don't need money,
Chances are, you're thinking about "the One". Does the One exist?
Ask yourself another question, when it comes to dating, why are people nervous?
There can be many underlying problems. But when it comes to dating, I've found that it really is because of the desperation mentality. It's the thought that there are very very few people in this world who will like you, and compound that with the idea that there are very few opportunities, and you basically feel like walking on eggshells when you are with someone you like. Scared, over-thinking, self-doubt, neurotic behaviour ensues.
A lot of people despise the "player mentality". I'm not really a big fan of it myself, but one thing that you gain by mingling with lots of people is you never have the desperation mentality. You see the world for what it is, talking to many different personalities, meeting more people than you ever imagined, and you realize some very essential truths.
Compatibility really isn't that rare. If you talk to someone long enough and you have decent conversation skills and a good head on your shoulders, you'll find a lot of people who would make either great friends or great relationships with. You'll also realize that opportunities are everywhere. Everytime you leave the house (or go on a social networking site to a lesser extent) opportunities are there. Stop tricking your own mind into believing that opportunities are rare. When you believe in the Abundance Mentality, a new world will open for you.
There are 6 billion people in this world. Take a vacation to a major city and walk around if that's what it is going to take to shake you out of your tunnel vision. I assure you, there are tons of people out there who can like you if you just open your eyes and follow your heart. Have fun, for crying out loud! Don't look at this as brain surgery, it should be fun times, and if it isn't, you're not thinking straight.
For me, a long term relationship is the ultimate goal, but that doesn't mean I'm going to be this uptight robot pondering the deep philosophical implications each time I talk to a potential partner.
"Work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one's watching."
--Crystal Boyd
2 comments:
True compatibility for a long term relationship IS rare. Compatibiliy for a short fling is not rare.
BTW, when I looked at the photo, I thought horrible sweater, horrible haircut, he's got an "I just got away with murder" grin because he knows she's way too good for him (even though she's not that hot), give it at most ten years and she'll take the house and the kids.
LOL
I was thinking about the sweater too!
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